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A divorce can be really tough, but single parenting is a whole other level of toughness, especially if you were too dependent on your ex-spouse. Single moms in Egypt are faced with many challenges every day. These are some of the major difficulties faced by single mothers and how to overcome them.
How should I handle my emotions?
Self-doubt and guilt are the worst trap post-divorce. You could easily feel overwhelmed and forget yourself amidst the chaos. Put yourself first, and prioritize your physical and mental health. Investing in yourself and well-being will make you stronger and more confident. Go to therapy or a support group if you feel that you need to, and you probably will.
How do I handle the children?
Children are uncomfortable around change and thrive on routine, which is why divorce is a huge thing for them, given the drastically different living situation they find themselves in. Rana Hany, a certified Positive Discipline Educator from Positive Discipline Association USA, stresses on the importance of understanding that as parents.
Hany suggests that we accept and respect that this huge change has a negative impact on kids. Any slight change affects the child, like moving to a new house, where the child will get cranky and uncomfortable. Children can sense our stress/sadness, and are affected by it too. Moms should validate kids’ feelings and communicate with them.
How do I handle the unresolved issues with my ex-husband?
For the sake of your peace of mind, and most importantly your kids, try your best to be on good terms with your ex-husband. And the key here is to compromise. We understand that the Egyptian law represents a constraint sometimes, but if both parents put their kids first, they’ll find a way to sort it out. The role of a father in the lives of children aged between 7-12 is essential.
How do I manage the responsibility of being a mother and a father at the same time?
Finding yourself alone with the kids can put you under massive stress. Responsibility comes by practice. You’ll struggle at first but you’ll get the hang of it by time. And when you do, celebrate the small achievements. Also, don’t be shy to ask for physical help from your close family members and friends. And most importantly, believe that you have what it takes to do it solo.
Further reading: When Do Mothers Know It’s Time for a Divorce?