Netflix series “YOU” is the hottest social media trend this month. The male protagonist Joe became the center of women’s gossip. Many percieve him as a toxic prince charming. Others believe he’s a victim due to the damage he’s been exposed to by his parents. As a mother, this was a major trigger for me while watching the series and it made me think of all the parenting mistakes that created the extremely disturbed JOE!
My child’s childhood years will affect every single moment in his life
Although Joe’s relationship with his mother wasn’t revealed from the very beginning, we were all quite sure that this psychopath’s childhood was damaged. It’s the same old story, the victim of a disassembled family, a careless mother, and a beast for a father. What else can we expect?
A victimized child who grew up to be a typical toxic male who ruined women’s lives under the name of love and ironically believing that he was saving them. He tried to give them love, but how can we do so when he was never loved the right way by his own mom?
A father is the most important male figure in a daughter’s life
At the beginning of the series, you might have questioned Beck’s actions and relationship with Benji, but when we knew more about her relationship with her father and the family she came from we understood and sympathized! Another toxic family with a drug-addicted father, you can’t ask for worse! Beck needed a father she can look up to and rely on but awfully when she saw a good version of him, it was with another family!
My child’s friends are a reflection of the mistakes I made
As a result, this didn’t just affect Beck’s love choices, it drastically affected her choice of friends. She indulged in fake relationships that exploited her with her consent because they gave her what she missed from a family. Her true self was buried a long time ago by her parents and we definitely saw this clearly in her book while writing her master scene!
If I don’t give time to my child, a toxic person will
This was definitely obvious in Joe’s relation with Paco. It was very strange at the beginning, but then we realized Joe saw himself in this kid but awfully this kid saw Joe murdering. We don’t know if he will appear in Season three, but we’re sure he will continue his life to be a new Joe! No mother was there to listen or hug!
Overprotecting your little one might make things worse
This was clear in Delilah and Ellie’s sisterhood. Delilah played the mother role in her sister’s life and she was trying to protect her from the danger she’s been exposed to. However, her attitude and making Ellie feel the lack of trust and giving her no reasons for the NOs turned her into a prey for Henderson. Sometimes you have all the good intentions towards your child, but unfortunately, it is not enough.
Exchanging roles with your child is a straight road to hell
I think there is nothing worse than raising your child to be the mother of her twin brother and the lifesaver of the family. This exactly what Love’s parents criminally did. They burdened her with protecting her alcoholic brother which was definitely reflected in her choices especially when her heart was broken after her husband’s death.
It makes sense that she would fall for someone like Joe or Willy as she knew him and believed that some cupcakes could make him a better person! And just as she was exploited by the closest people to her, she chose to exploit Maylo, her late husband’s friend, for years.
You are your child’s first attention giver
It was very heartbreaking watching Forty trying to continue getting his father’s attention that was clearly not given to him as a child. The lack of his father’s interest led him to get involved with certain women just to impress his father, but still failed to.