If you’ve been on social media yesterday, you probably came across this happy family photoshoot. After all, they look so normal; so merry and joyful, right? WRONG. This photo is anything but normal. Anything but merry. Anything but a regular family photograph.
We’ve got a husband, a pregnant wife, a son, a daughter and who’s that other female on the right? Oh, right, that’s his second wife. His what you say? yes, his second wife.
I know, I know, it’s none of our business and people should be allowed to do whatever they please. BUT romanticizing the idea of having a second wife is something WE as WOMEN should NOT be OK with. It is NOT something to be jolly about and give the impression that being one big happy family is actually an option.
So, just in case you men were THINKING it could be, I’d like to assure you that this photo is a load of nonsense. And if you were to ever consider it, you’d be looking at one of two options: divorce or bloodshed.
If any of you women were wondering whether the first wife, Tota, could really be as happy and accepting as she seems, please read the comments below to know that she’s just a woman like all the rest of us. Unfortunately being forced into accepting this situation for the sake of her children.
What really gets to me is that men use the excuse of ‘Shar’ Rabena’ for polygamy and they don’t understand the terms of it at all. But let’s not get into that.
The main question is, what should a woman do when she’s in this horrible situation? And how much should a woman put up with for the sake of her kids?
Is it really worth accepting and having to allow her husband to do whatever he wants just so she can ensure that her kids get the care and education that they need? Aren’t these children the father’s responsibility anyway?
It’s sad, it’s frustrating, it’s annoying to see this happen over and over again with men treating their first wives like nothing and forcing them to accept it.
Dear women, please stand up to your husbands, and don’t be afraid to leave.
Dear women, please do not target married men. Ask yourselves: would you like it if your husband traded you in for a younger model? So, please have some respect, decency, and find someone who is actually available instead of breaking someone’s heart and being a home-wrecker.
Dear men, if you have a pregnant wife and kids, please have a little decency and take care of your family instead of thinking with your male ego that makes you believe you’re special. You’re NOT.
To this particular family or whatever I should be calling you, please stop sharing your photos and allowing others to think it’s acceptable. Keep your family drama to yourself.
Further reading: My Husband Is on Tinder and I Don’t Know What to Do