As couples age, some people start to disregard sex or don’t feel the need for it. While being in a long-term relationship can make you get too familiar with your partner, it doesn’t mean that the sex has to be boring. In fact, you can even find that having sex after 40 can be even more satisfying than you expected.
Here are a few tips on how to have great sex after 40:
Accept the changes
It’s normal for your body to age, for your appearance to change, and for your energy to lessen. Instead of it getting in the way and affecting your self-confidence, you need to start accepting the changes and making use of what you have. The more comfortable you are with yourself, the more comfortable you’ll be with your partner.
Be open to experimentation
One of the best things about having sex over 40 is that you’re very familiar with the person you’re with and you can feel comfortable enough to experiment. Don’t be afraid to experiment, voice your fantasies, or try out new things.
Due to the fluctuating estrogen levels and irregular periods, sex can get a lot drier, making it quite uncomfortable. As the vaginal walls become thinner, there’s a higher possibility of bleeding or tearing. But there’s a solution to make sure you enjoy your sex life and that’s using lube or estrogen cream and applying it to the areas that are dry.
Make time for intimacy
While women’s sexual drive tends to drop as they age, it is important to make time for intimacy and engage in intimate activities outside of the bedroom. Whether it’s making time for date nights, alone time, or holding hands and cuddling, this keeps you connected with your partner and stimulates your sexual drive.
With more experience, you start knowing what you like, what affects you, and how to reach an orgasm. The more aware of your body you are, the more you can direct your partner to make you satisfied. Don’t be afraid to tell your husband how to please you and take charge of the situation.
Maintain a healthy lifestyle
In order to actually enjoy having sex, you need to have enough energy to do so. You don’t want to be thinking about how you’d rather be sleeping or even feeling drowsy when you’re getting intimate with your partner. In order to do that, you should maintain a healthy lifestyle, get enough sleep, and exercise regularly.