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Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a mental health condition mainly characterized by an inflated sense of importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. All those characteristics definitely affect a narcissist’s relationship with others, especially his partner. It’s not easy to identify a narcissistic person especially if you’re emotionally involved with him.
Narcissism, just like any other mental disorder, falls on a spectrum, there is no black and white. However, there are certain red flags that can guide you to spot a narcissistic person.
The beginning of a relationship with a narcissist is always fascinating. He’s usually an attractive guy who admits being in love fast, texts you frequently, and constantly says you’re the woman of his dreams. Then all of a sudden things take an ugly turn for no obvious reason. Once you fall for him, he dramatically shuts down to the extent that he might suddenly disappear with no prior notice. Then surprisingly returns out of nowhere with the same charm he used to show in the beginning.
A narcissistic person falsely feels he’s better than everyone else, while he lacks self-esteem. He always exaggerates his accomplishments to gain admiration from others to feed this lack of confidence. He needs constant praise from people and his partner comes on top of the list. The problem is that no matter how much you tell him that you admire and love him, it’s never enough. Ironically, he doesn’t believe someone can love him.
When your turn comes to talk about your emotions and problems, he’s busy talking about himself. He never has the ability to understand or validate your feelings. Moreover, he tries to lower your self-esteem. This makes him feel powerful. He will put you down, make fun of you, and even insult you.
He is always right
Arguing with a narcissist is real torture because he is always right. He never apologizes no matter what he did. He believes that what he says is facts and everyone has to agree with him, especially his partner. There is no place for compromise in his life.
A narcissist spins the truth and distorts reality. He makes you feel it’s always your fault. He may manipulate you into feeling guilty when you do something for yourself if it goes against his desires.
A narcissist seeks perfection in all aspects. He believes that he should be perfect, as well as his partner, and things should happen exactly as he expects. Because this is unrealistic, he will end up feeling dissatisfied in the relationship and miserable.
A control freak
Control completes the grandiose, manipulation, and perfectionism equation. Everything has to be the way he wants. His sense of entitlement makes him feel he should be in control of everything. He thinks of others, especially his partner, as marionette dolls that he can control. When you – the doll – don’t follow his script, he will get mad.
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Sources used in this article:
- Narcissistic Personality Disorder – Mayo Clinic
- 11 Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist and How to Get Out – Healthline
- What Are the Signs of a Narcissistic Man? – MedicineNet
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