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Being diagnosed with breast cancer is a tough and challenging experience for any woman. Being a mom, the pain and struggles are doubled. A breast cancer mom has to bear the shock, survive all her emotional breakdowns, in addition to taking care of the kids and assuring their psychological health during this phase.
We attempt to support all breast cancer warriors during Breast Cancer Awareness Month. That’s why we interviewed our certified Positive Discipline Educator, Rana Hany, to help guide our one-of-a-kind mothers in this life-changing experience.
Take your time
This was Hany’s first advice to moms. “Being diagnosed with breast cancer is a shock, so the mom has to give herself enough time to understand the situation and digest her feelings of fear and sadness,” Hany explained. This will prevent transferring such emotions directly to the kids without preparation for all their feelings and questions.
This doesn’t mean hiding her feelings in front of her kids. “It’s very normal for moms to show anxiety or fear and even cry in front of the kids while sharing such news,” Hany said
Being honest is crucial while sharing details according to the child’s age. She explained that kids don’t need to know the scientific details of the disease, but the mom has to take them through all the changes that will take place as a consequence. “The details that should be shared with the kids are the time she will start the treatment, how they will be taken care of in the meantime, and changes that will occur in their lifestyle like going to school, and if any caregivers will stay with them,” Hany added.
Listen to them
After explaining her side of the story, Hany advised the mom to listen to them carefully, answer all their questions, and promise to get back with answers. The mom can even get them involved by searching online with them or taking them to doctor appointments. “It’s important to validate their feelings and give them the space to express how they feel,” she added.
Does this mean you’re dying?
“This is a common question a child asks in similar situations,” Hany highlighted. Although it’s extremely harsh not to assure the kids that this won’t happen, the parenting coach stressed on being honest with the kids. She explained that what a mom can promise is doing everything she can to get better like taking the medicines.
To all breast cancer warriors out there, you’re doing an amazing job. Stay strong!
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