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We might not always agree on everything, but when it comes to a wife’s infidelity, the whole world seems to unite. The wife is strongly rejected by society and she is shown no mercy or given justifications. What about a cheating wife whose husband is murdered by her lover?
This is just the intro of Le’bet El Nesyan series this Ramadan. The mosalsal, starring Dina El Sherbiny, tells the story of Ruqayah who cheats on her husband. After she gets caught, her husband and lover kill each other in front of her, so she tries to commit suicide but ends up in a coma. Four months later, she wakes up from the coma but she cannot remember the last six years of her life and the conflict begins.
Such a wife can be easily judged and condemned, however, there are three sides to this story. Ruqayah is a mom of a 6-year-old boy which makes the story even more complicated and made me, as a mother, ask myself a very crucial question. Should this sinner be deprived of her son?
The answer is never easy because I see that the story has three humane aspects that we can’t ignore!
The dead husband’s family side
Whether you feel empathy towards this wife or you think she should go to hell, you can’t forget her husband’s family tragedy. They lost their son in an outrageous accident because of his wife’s shameful act. They suffered from a media scandal as they are an influential family.
However, they are obliged to deal with the woman they hate the most because she is the mother of their grandson. This forced her father-in-law to try to tell his grandson the truth about his mother. Luckily, his daughter stopped him to avoid heartbreaking the boy.
Can we expect this family to accept her? Should we wait for their forgiveness? Could any normal human being deny his legitimate feelings of anger, sorrow, and revenge? We can all think fairly and logically, but not when we are in their shoes. Besides, they will always claim that such a mother will have a bad influence on her child.
The mother’s side
We will definitely disagree about the price that this woman has to pay. However, our motherly instincts can’t stop us from sympathizing with her situation. No mistake is worth depriving her of the son and motherhood.
Ruqayah woke up one day to realize that she is guilty in everyone’s eyes for something that she cannot recall. Yet, despite losing her memory, she can’t forget her son, she can’t forget that she is a mom who needs to live the rest of her life with her child and that she needs to stay beside him when he’s sick. Should we mercilessly judge and believe that her mistake is a reason to prohibit her from her rights as a mother?
The child’s side
The 6-year-old son, Yehia, witnessed in four months what adults can’t survive in years. He lost his father and was deprived of his comatose mother. When she wakes up, he’s not allowed to see her because she is a sinner. This led to a nervous breakdown and other psychological problems as bed-wetting. We can easily judge by harshly punishing Ruqayah, but the problem is that this way we’re punishing an innocent child for no reason.
Let’s imagine the worse if his grandfather decides to tell him the whole story, what would be Yehia’s fate?
How could a pure little boy bear the shocking truth? How would this affect his future life? Will he live with the guilt of loving his mother despite her betrayal?
We can’t forget that this child is in deep need of his mother at such a young age.
If you were the decision-maker in this case, what would you do?