How many times have you encountered an adult who is experienced and wise and yet doesn’t know how to be responsible or depend on themselves? As a mother, you probably want to avoid your child growing up and becoming like that. The question is: how do we raise men and women who are responsible and independent?
Rahet Bally’s certified positive psychology and parenting coach, Rana Hany, talks us through raising children who are responsible and independent.
According to Hany, one point to keep in mind is that teaching children to become responsible can start at the age of two. As soon as the child starts trying to feed themselves on their own, they are ready to explore and discover their skills. As parents, it is our role to give them this opportunity without trying to do everything for them.
Teaching children responsibility
Here are a few parenting tips to raise children who aren’t spoilt, but responsible instead:
- Avoid doing anything for them that they can do themselves. This includes dressing them, tying their shoelaces, brushing their teeth, etc.
- Try to avoid running to their rescue whenever they’re in trouble. Give them the space to figure things out themselves and correct their mistakes without interfering.
- Train them to become responsible. Every time you start giving them a new task or expect them to be responsible, it is important to take the time to teach them how to do it and what is expected of them before throwing them under the bus.
- Make your children do house chores at a young age. This sense of responsibility and having tasks to do will teach them to take on responsibility.
- Never use taking on more chores or responsibility as a form of punishment. This could make them resonate responsibility with a negative feeling and end up hating it.
- Celebrate your children whenever they learn to do something new independently, even if it’s as small as tidying up their bed or washing the dishes.
- Give your children pocket money from a young age to help them understand the value of money. You can also teach them how to save up to buy something they really want.
- Start depending on your children and making them feel you need their help.
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