After an incident in Alexandria where a teenager ran away from home due to her father’s physical abuse, the Internet went crazy with females mocking her. Yes, you heard that right. Females, not males, were making fun of the entire incident and how she should suck it up as they’d all been exposed to physical abuse from their parents.
The reaction of social media – and how Egyptian women were sharing their stories of abuse so lightly – brings up a question that we need to explore: Since when is physical abuse not only accepted but become so normal that women compete on how much abuse they’ve taken?
دي اسوء حاجة انا شوفتها من فترة طويلةبوست بيضحك على ان بنت هربت من البيت بسبب ضرب والدها ليها ب "خشبة" وانها مكنتش…
In the comments above, you’ll find women sharing their abuse stories in a humorous and glorified way which really breaks our hearts.
We have many issues in our culture that need to be addressed, but physical abuse should never be tolerated, let alone glorified.
To all women and children who have endured physical abuse, there are a few things you need to know:
- Physical abuse should NEVER be accepted. Sometimes, it can feel like there’s nothing you can do in the situation and so it is endured, but it should never be a norm.
- Child abuse should never be mocked. It is a traumatic experience and can leave its mark for as long as you live.
- Be kind. You’ve been through it. You know how painful, humiliating, and demeaning it is. Support other women rather than berate them.
- Speak up. There will be no change when everyone is silent and accepted. Now more than ever is the time to stand up against the patriarchal society we live in and try to change the things that matter.
As women, we’ve tolerated a lot of abuse from men in our culture, whether physically, verbally, or even sexually. But it does not mean that physical abuse will ever become socially accepted.
Parents need to understand that hitting their children is not a way of raising them and that it only leads to traumas, psychological difficulties, and unstable people. This is a form of bullying and only leads to raising a generation of bullies.
Physical abuse is not an act of love, it is an act of weakness. The need for superiority and humiliating someone to that extent is just messed up. To all parents, please put yourself in your children’s shoes before damaging their self-esteem, personalities, and chasing the light out of them with your beatings.
Any form of beating will always be considered physical abuse.
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