Having self-confidence is important to help to overcome any troubles, problems or obstacles that stand in your child’s way. As a mother, the best thing you can do is boost your child‘s self-esteem and make sure that they believe in themselves and their abilities.
Children who have self-confidence feel happiness, love and acceptance and can develop a lot faster than those around them. This helps them become more successful and productive in both their social and practical lives. In this article, certified positive psychology and parenting coach Rana Hany, will give you tips and advice to help you boost your child’s self-esteem at a young age:
Steps to boost your child’s self-confidence
- The most important piece of advice as a parent is to avoid any form of comparison between your child and their siblings or friends. Always encourage them to improve themselves based on their previous performances only.
- Appreciate the effort that your child puts and always make them feel that you believe in them and in their ability to accomplish certain tasks. However, be wary of over-flattering them with unrealistic expectations as this can harm your child.
- Always remind your child with their achievements and strong suits. You can also play a game of “Draw yourself” and when it’s your child’s turn, you can take turns in positively explaining their body structure. For example, you can say that your son’s hand is strong and can be used to help others as well as comfort them. Or you can say that your daughter’s feet are fast and this helps them excel in swimming. This is a great way to highlight their positive points and make them see how useful it is.
- Try and decrease your criticism when it comes to your children’s behaviour. When you want to comment, be sure to make it about their actions and not about them as a person. Instead of saying that they’re rude, you can say that this way of speaking is unacceptable and that you’re sure that they can speak more positively.
- Encourage your child to voice their opinion and include them when making decisions at home.
- Express your unconditional love to them regardless of what their actions or behaviours are.
- Give them responsibilities and chores around the house that is appropriate to their age. This makes them feel that they’re important and boosts their confidence in themselves.
- Don’t do anything for your child that they can do for themselves. Sometimes, when you’re in a hurry you can tie their shoelaces for them because they’re taking too much time and this can indirectly make them feel that they’re not good enough at what they do.
- Make sure you’re not being over-protective and living their lives for them out of fear.
- Instead of giving orders, allow your children to make choices by giving them options. You can do this by asking whether they want to wear the blue or the green t-shirt, if they want to eat now or in 10 minutes. This makes a child feel that they’re in control of their lives and also helps them make decisions.
- Encourage their talents and hobbies and help develop them. Let them participate in volunteer, charity work and sports, too. If you feel they have a self-confidence issue, learning self-defence can be an excellent boost to their self-esteem.
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